The Chronicles of Benia

(My Concrete Steps to Becoming Bride)

As mentioned in my previous blog,  I mapped – out a five-year life plan last Saturday.

I Mapped – Out A Five Year Life (Christ, The Deliverer and Liveloud Concert)

I dared to plan after a year of praying and reflecting. One of my major goals is to get married. Here’s the truth: I prayed and waited for years while keeping myself busy with other things. In short, I didn’t actually plan for it. A goal without a plan is just a wish, but a goal with a plan is an invitation to faith. I dared to plan after a year of praying and reflecting. One of my major goals is to get married. Here’s the truth: I prayed and waited for years while keeping myself busy with other things.In short, I didn’t actually plan for it. A goal without a plan is just a wish, but a goal with a plan is an invitation to faith.

The Reason of My Planning

Once, a sister (I think you know by now that when I say “sister,” I am referring to a female friend) told me she would only believe the Lord answers prayers if I were married. She added that she knew I had been praying for a spouse with 100 rosaries. My jaw dropped when I heard that; it was the only response I could give her. I am uncertain whether to feel happy or sorry for the Lord, knowing that because of my singleness, someone’s faith is at stake.
I Gave This A Hard Thought. I am planning and taking action not to save the Lord’s name. (Who am I to do that? I am just a creature made from ashes, and He is the Creator!) I am not trying to assist Him in finding my Mr. The One, nor to encourage the sister to pray and have faith. But I am planning and taking definite actions because I want to meet him and eventually help each other build the Kingdom of God here on earth and attain eternal life with the Lord when we leave this world. (Yes, that’s the vision, Mr. The One… Out there.)
Mapping – Out The Way (Not To His Heart, Yet) But To Make Him Look In My Direction.

I Gave A Hard Thought About It

I am planning and taking action not to save the Lord’s name. (Who am I to do that? I am just a creature from ashes, and He is the Creator!) Neither help Him find my Mr. The One nor encourage the sister to pray and have faith. But I am planning and taking definite actions because I want to meet him and finally help each other build the Kingdom of God here on earth and reach life eternal with the Lord when we pass on from this world. (Yes, that’s the vision, Mr. The One… Out-There.)

Mapping – Out The Way (Not To His Heart, Yet) But to Make Him Look At My Direction

(Self – Conversation)

I talked to myself. This was how it went.
“I am not looking and finding him. He must find me, meaning he is searching for a spouse, too. That is clear to me. I’m surrounded by kind, sweet, praying, loving, and almost perfect bachelors who see me as a sibling or even an older sister. 😊
So, the objective for now is to connect with someone who sees me as a friend/sister but also considers me a possible future spouse.

I need to express this clearly and not approach the goal with just a vague idea of marrying Mr. Right.

This is war.

This is science. Let’s harness the skills of science and project management. The Good Shepherd (Two Sheep Will Become One and There Will Be One Shepherd). On that large sheet of paper, I first wrote Psalm 23. Psalm 23 represents my entire five-year life plan.
I identified all potential sources of partners: church, work, online, events, and referrals. Then, I enrolled in a dating course for guidance and paid for a subscription to an online Catholic dating site.
As I activated my subscription, I prayed for trust and joy. I updated my photo and rewrote my profile, including a few details that I hope will sound interesting to me and, hopefully, to the men who are searching as well.
I messaged members who gave a “thumbs-up” to my photos and wrote according to what I learned from an article about etiquette in online messaging. I simply thanked them for “liking” my photos and added something about their profile. I truly enjoyed reading profiles with full attention and discovering many men who love the Lord through their interests and are quite good-looking!
Please pray for me. I will share who responds next time.
Until the God-ordained next time.